Forget Facebook: Be a real-world friend
“Worry not that no one knows of you. Seek to be worth knowing.” — Confucius
In today’s world of Facebook, Google+, Twitter, and LinkedIn, people are seemingly so caught up in who knows of them — the number of friends or followers they have — that they’ve forgotten to seek to be worth knowing.
For some in the law enforcement community it is all about who knows their name, what awards they can get, who they have had their picture taken with, and who they are “friends” with on social media sites. It is difficult to have a conversation with these officers without them dropping the name of some well-known trainer and implying they are close friends because they were “chatting on Facebook last night.”
My challenge to you is to seek to be worth knowing.
Seeking to be worth knowing is a philosophy focused on:
• Working on your personal growth and development
What conferences do you attend? What courses (online or live) are you taking? What are you doing to better yourself? Who are you spending times with -- not so you can have your picture taken with them, but so you can learn from them?
When it comes to personal growth, if you are the smartest and most talented person in the room, you are in the wrong room.
Knowledge is Potential
That change can only occur, however, when you do two things with knowledge:
1.) Put knowledge into action
You can have all the knowledge in the world, but if you do not share it or transform that knowledge into action, it is of little value. The challenge then is to find ways to share the knowledge you have. You can share knowledge by becoming a trainer for your agency, developing brief roll call training sessions, writing a blog, writing articles for online or print publications, or presenting at conferences.
You can forward to your fellow officers email links regarding informative articles, book reviews, or inspiring TED talks.
You can also post these on your Facebook page so you can add real value to your online ‘friendship.’
You can give books or audio recordings as gifts, or as a sign of appreciation to people in your life.
Interested v. Interesting
The result is that you will make the other person feel important and you will learn a great deal about them, and yourself in the process.
Focusing on being worth knowing will help you develop into a better officer, leader, spouse, parent, and person. You may even find that more people know of you.
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